I think I may just be reading too much into these two situations, but here goes. 

Earlier today I ran into (let’s call her A) A at Walmart. A is the wife of my husband’s coworker. Last year (January 2010), we watched their son for them when A’s husband called us from the hospital asking us to watch him since he had taken A to the ER for bleeding (she was pregnant at the time). Sadly, she ended up miscarrying the baby. We said our condolences when they arrived home and went home to give them their privacy.

Fast forward to August 2010. I was roughly 7 months pregnant with Travis. My husband and I met up with her and her husband and another couple for dinner since her husband and another coworker were deploying. So she sees me and I smile and say hi and she doesn’t even say anything to me! Not even a hi or how are you or a congratulations (At that time I have not seen her since the time we watched her son). She just looked as if she’s never seen a pregnant person before. Of course, I didn’t say anything because I figured, “She’s probably still sad about her loss.” So I let it go and went on to enjoy the night.

So today I ran into her at Walmart. We say hi and I ask her how they’re all doing. She says they are doing fine and I ask her when her husband is going to deploy. She responds that he is deploying in a few weeks and I tell her to call me if she ever needed anything (and I say this to her in every deployment her husband goes on). Then I said hi to her son and asked how he was doing and told him how much he has grown. Being a 3 year old boy, he was a bit shy and she remarked, “Well he doesn’t know you.” Okay, my bad, but I just thought it was rude to just stand there and not say hi to him. Anyway, she then took one look at Travis and looked away. So at this point, I was getting mad so I said that I had to go and walked off.

I was so mad! I know this sounds silly, but I was mad that she didn’t even say hi to my son or even ask me how I was doing since she knows that my husband is deployed. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not looking for someone to pity me or to constantly ask me if I’m doing okay, but isn’t that common courtesy amongst military wives? I know that when my dad deployed, my mom always made it a point to make sure that any of the spouses that she knew whose husband were deployed with my dad were doing alright. I always ask A if she’s doing okay or if there’s anything Joseph & I can do for her, or to call us if she needs anything when her husband’s gone. Also, I was mad that she didn’t even say hi to my son. It’s like she just takes a look at him and then glances away like he was nothing. Now I don’t expect every person to dote and say hi to my child, but my husband and her husband are really good friends on top of being coworkers and she can’t even say hi? On top of that, she never thanked us for watching her son (last minute too) so that her husband could be with her at the hospital. Of course, I wasn’t expecting her to say thank you the minute she arrived home with the sad news, but she could have said thank you when we saw her again that August. 

The second situation involves another wife (we’ll call her S) of my husband’s coworker. S and I were pregnant at the same time, but she was due in December while I was due in October. Anyway, I met her once when my husband and I ran into her and her husband at the mall. We said hellos and made small talk and left. Anyway, she had added my husband on Facebook, but didn’t bother to add me. I don’t know why this bugs me to be honest, but I’m just kind of weirded out that she would add Joseph, but not me. I mean Joseph isn’t her coworker, it’s her husbands. I guess I just assumed that she’d want to be friends with me since we have kids the same age? Oh well. I’m not mad at this situation, just a bit weirded out I guess.

Okay well I’m done ranting for now! Thanks for letting me vent guys :)